Obituary of Pamela Louise Radusin

It is with such sorrow we announce the peaceful passing of our Beloved Warrior, Pamela Louise Radusin (nee: McGean) in the late hours on Friday, June 3^rd, 2022, while in Hospice Care at the age of 73.                           

With family by her side, Pamela lost her brief battle with cancer and has proceeded on her final journey home to reunite with her Husband llija Radusin, Son David Dawdy, Mother Lorraine Werezak, Father Lawrence (Chops) McGean, Sister Sharon Poirier and Brother-in-law Charles Poirier.

Pamela will be deeply missed by her surviving brothers, Larry (Linda) McGean and Terry (Jacqueline) McGean. Fondly remembered by her many nieces & nephews, Darren (Kristen), Lise (Kevin), Steven (Andrea), Charlene (Mark), Cherie (Lyal), Charmaine (Rodney), Terry (Tracy), Chris, Jimmy (Chrissy), Erin (Misho), Adam (Catherine). Pamela took great pleasure in visiting and sharing her time with her many great nieces and nephews.

The family expresses their sincere gratitude to all of Pamela’s caregivers for their care and compassion over the last couple of months. Extended thank you to Pamela’s cousin Linda Handley and good friend    Linda Poirier for the day-to-day care & visits and taking her to countless doctor appointments. Hospice Niagara was the most wonderful & compassionate facility and a huge thank you to the many nurses, staff and doctors for the comfortable care Pamela received. She left us with grace and dignity!!! She is already missed by her many friends and the Friday night game crew playing cards & ramoli.

In keeping with Pamela’s wishes, cremation has taken place and Funeral arrangements have been entrusted to GEORGE DARTE FUNERAL HOME  585 Carlton St., St. Catharines on WEDNESDAY, JUNE 15^th 2022. Visitation will be held at 10:00 am, Service at 11:00am followed by a burial at Victoria Lawn Cemetery. If desired, please consider making donations on the family’s behalf to Hospice Niagara or Make a Wish Foundation.

“Remember me with smiles not tears ‘cause we’ll see each other again and recall the closeness that we each shared - A love is as sweet as my love for you”

Good morning, Family & Friends, I'm Charlene, Pamela's eldest niece ...

On The evening of my aunt's passing, I was told by my Uncle Terry and Jackie they were given specific instructions that "Charlene" was to do her eulogy ... I said, "Oh god NO, I can't because I get too nervous — Maybe my brother Steve or Sister Cherie because they are so elegant and nerveless when they speak". But I was told it had to be me ... for some reason Aunt Pam said when she was sad, I'd always make her laugh so hard that she almost pee'd her pants.

This woman meant the world to me ... to ail of us ... i'm truly humbled by the challenge of describing the fullness of her beauty ... She valued me in her life and today I stand here absolutely privileged without question to say a few short words about an incredible human being.

We all know that Pam did not like anyone to fuss over her — She was so independent, selfless, so kind and gentle soul. If you needed her for any reason, she was there with no questions asked.

When her sister Sharon passed away in April 2021 it really took a toll on her. She was lost and had to face living alone again. Prior to this sad passing, Aunt Pam on many occasions said she never really wanted to be on earth, but in heaven with her family. Then one day soon after we came by for our weekly visit, she broke down and was crying ... I took her by her hand and said, "Aunt Pam, what's wrong, why are you crying, did something happen, did someone hurt or upset you"? She said "No" ... and I said, "why are you so sad"? She Said "Yesterday I didn't care if I lived or died — I'd always felt so alone — but after watching you kids take care of your mother, I'd never seen so much family unity, bonding, compassion not only for your dying mother but the love, strength & support you have all shown me. I've never felt so much love - I sure hope I'm this lucky to be this loved when my time comes" I wiped her tears and told her we will always be there, and she would never have to enter afterlife on her own. "Now stop talking non-sense. We have so much more bonding to do — Now, do ya want to touch my booty, it's big and firm — and we laughed for a good 10 minutes.

Now let's talk about her OCD —. When Kelly & I painted her apartment and thought we were done, came by for a visit and she had all these sticky notes plastered everywhere on the walls - this needs to be touched up, or needs to be re-puttied, we would walk into the kitchen and there's notes on the stove, on the sink on the doorknobs that "said "Terry to fix". The bathroom faucet leaking, mirror needs adjusting and I could go on.

I think she made Arthur Fry, the Inventor of POST— IT-NOTES very rich with the amount of post-its she had stuck all over her apartment — When we went by the apartment to help Uncle Terry and Jackie clean out some of the stuff, they spend countless hours sorting through, she had boxes labelled that needed to go to certain people. She never missed a beat — always on the ball and one step ahead ...

I'm thinking" how is it one could be this organized" but Mark, you got her every time you went over to visit — while I was enjoying a coffee on the patio with her, Mark would go into her kitchen and start rearranging her cupboards and fridge putting things where they didn't belong. She would call me after I got home and laughing saying that bugger Mark — Always keeping me on my toes. You couldn't get more OCD than this.

Uncle Larry, when Pam was in the hospital, she told us you were trying to book a flight down to be by her side — She said he better not come because he has something extremely important to take care of— Oh man, I'm sure glad you listened to your older sister because she really got riled up talking about it —Although sweet, she was a real firecracker. I know you never expected things to happen as quickly as they did and it killed you to be so far away from your sister, but please know, because she told me, your life meant more to her than her own — My brother is so smart, and he need not worry about me Verbatim

Uncle Terry, her fixer of everything she called you — Always by her side and nothing was any different the night of June 3, the night she took her last breath. Jackie and her cousin Linda holding her hand letting her know in unspoken words, it's ok to go home. She spoke so highly of you all and without you's caring for her in her final days, she would have suffered with fear. Instead, she left us with peace & dignity. If you only knew how grateful she was to have you in her life.

I'd like to close this eulogy with this memory we were lucky enough to witness - THE BEAUTIFUL DEATH -

Pamela was the most beautiful death I've ever seen — a memory that would be forever etched in my heart. She had a little sweet smile, her skin flawless, a rose in her hand with a poem that read:

It may comfort us all a bit to realize that Pam is now reunited with her husband Leo, her son David, parents Lorraine & Chops, sister Sharon and brother-in-law Charlie and that someday we'll all be  together again when we cross over to the other side. This is only a brief parting in the larger scheme of life.

Special Thank you to my siblings, Lise, Darren, Steven, Charmaine & Cherie, the 2 Linda's who made sure she never rode this unpleasant illness alone.

Forever in our hearts our Beautiful Pamela —Till we meet again